Dating, Sex and Marriage - Latest Research Reports
Edited by Jonathan D. Kantrowitz
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Learn how the color red attracts both men and
women. Learn about the elusive G-spot.
How, when and where couples ge together, how long
they stay together, and what they do when they are together - all the latest
research on these topics is included here.
The table of contents tells the complete story:
Table of Contents
Height
Appearance, Resources, Status, Education
Personality
Race and DNA
Politics
Lack of Willingness to Commit
The Color Red
Speed
Dating
Settling For Less
Online Dating
Who Should Pay for
Dates
Being True to Yourself and Your Partner
Too Much Commitment vs. Emotional
Distance
Hookups
Casual Sex
Stay-Overs,
Cohabitation and Marriage
Stay-Overs
Marry Versus
Cohabitate
Marriage Versus
Non-Marriage
Getting
Married
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Love and
Romance
Marriage and
Conflict
Cheating
Sex
Sexual
Activity
Sexual
Behavior
Condoms and
Lubricants
Oral
Contraception
Ovulation and Sex
Women’s Sexual
Problems
Last
Minute Additions – Latest Research
Sample reports:
Height matters – a lot
Studies
of online dating suggest that physical attraction is a key factor in early
relationship formation, but say little about the role of attractiveness in
longer-term relationships. Meanwhile, assortative coupling and exchange
models widely employed in demographic research overlook the powerful sorting
function of initial and sustained physical attraction. This article (http://papers.nber.org/papers/W20402?utm_campaign=ntw&utm_medium=email&utm_source=ntw
) observes the effects of one physical characteristic of men--height--on
various relationship outcomes in longer-term relationships, including spouses'
attributes, marriage entry and stability, and the division of household labor.
Drawing
on two different cohorts from the Panel Study of Income Dynamics, the authors
show that (1) height-coupling norms have changed little over the last three
decades, (2) short, average, and tall men's spouses are qualitatively different
from one another (3) short men marry and divorce at lower rates than others and
(4) both men's height relative to other men and their height relative to their
spouse are related to the within-couple distribution of household labor and earnings.
These
findings depict an enduring height hierarchy among men on in the spousal
marriage market. Further, they indicate that at least one physical
characteristic commonly associated with physical attraction influences the
formation, functioning, and stability of longer-term relationships.
Love makes sex better for most women
Love and commitment can make sex physically
more satisfying for many women, according to a Penn State Abington sociologist.
In a series of interviews, heterosexual
women between the ages of 20 and 68 and from a range of backgrounds said that
they believed love was necessary for maximum satisfaction in both sexual
relationships and marriage. The benefits of being in love with a sexual partner
are more than just emotional. Most of the women in the study said that love
made sex physically more pleasurable.
"Women said that they connected love
with sex and that love actually enhanced the physical experience of sex,"
said Beth Montemurro, associate professor of sociology.
Women who loved their sexual partners also
said they felt less inhibited and more willing to explore their sexuality.
"When women feel love, they may feel
greater sexual agency because they not only trust their partners but because
they feel that it is OK to have sex when love is present," Montemurro
said.
While 50 women of the 95 that were
interviewed said that love was not necessary for sex, only 18 of the women
unequivocally believed that love was unnecessary in a sexual relationship.
Older women who were interviewed indicated
that this connection between love, sex and marriage remained important
throughout their lifetimes, not just in certain eras of their lives.
The connection between love and sex may show
how women are socialized to see sex as an expression of love, Montemurro said.
Despite decades of the women's rights movement and an increased awareness of
women's sexual desire, the media continue to send a strong cultural message for
women to connect sex and love and to look down on girls and women who have sex
outside of committed relationships.
"On one hand, the media may seem to
show that casual sex is OK, but at the same time, movies and television,
especially, tend to portray women who are having sex outside of relationships
negatively," said Montemurro.
In a similar way, the media often portray
marriage as largely sexless, even though the participants in the study said
that sex was an important part of their marriage, according to Montemurro, who
presented her findings Aug. 19 2014 at
the annual meeting of the American Sociological Association.
"For the women I interviewed, they
seemed to say you need love in sex and you need sex in marriage," said
Montemurro.
From September 2008 to July 2011, Montemurro
conducted in-depth interviews with 95 women who lived in Pennsylvania, New
Jersey and New York. The interviews generally lasted 90 minutes.
Although some of the women who were
interviewed said they had sexual relationships with women, most of the women
were heterosexual and all were involved in heterosexual relationships.
Middle-Aged Women Missing Passion (and Sex) Seek Affairs, Not Divorce
When middle-aged women
seek extra-marital affairs, they are looking for more romantic passion, which
includes sex — and don’t want to divorce their husbands, suggests new research
to be presented at the 109th Annual Meeting of the American Sociological
Association.
“Being happy in marriage
is far different than being happy in bed,” said Eric Anderson, a professor of
masculinity, sexuality, and sport at the University of Winchester in England
and the chief science officer at AshleyMadison.com, a popular website for those
interested in having extra-marital affairs.
In their study, Anderson
and his co-authors focus on 100 heterosexual, married, females between the ages
of 35 and 45, and their conversations with potential suitors on
AshleyMadison.com, in hopes of determining what drives this subset of women to
infidelity.
The researchers found that
the large majority of women — 67 percent — were seeking affairs because they
wanted more romantic passion, which always included sex.
“But, the most surprising
finding is that none of the 100 women were looking to leave their husbands,”
said Anderson, who co-authored the study with Matthew H. Rafalow, a doctoral
candidate in sociology at the University of California-Irvine, and Matthew
Ripley, a doctoral candidate in sociology at the University of Southern
California. “Instead, they were adamant that they were not looking for a new
husband. Many even stated their overt love for their husbands, painting them in
a positive light.”
According to Anderson, he
thought women might be looking for sexual affairs because they were unhappy
with their husbands or because they felt unloved by their husbands. “But this
was not the case,” he said. “Our results reflect not martial disharmony, but
the sexual monotony that is a social fact of the nature of long-term monogamous
relationships. The most predictable thing about a relationship is that, the
longer it progresses, the quality and the frequency of sex between the couple
will fade. This is because we get used to and bored of the same body.”
While popular culture
suggests that men cheat because “they are horny and women cheat because there
is something wrong with the emotional aspect of their relationship, our
findings challenge these perceptions,” Anderson said. “Our research suggests
that men and women are not as different from each other as some may think.”
One way women seeking
affairs may differ from men looking to cheat, however, is in their preferred
number of partners, Anderson said. While only 47 percent of women involved in
the study discussed the number of partners they were seeking, of those that
did, they all wanted an affair exclusively with one man. On the other hand,
Anderson’s previous research indicates that men seeking affairs are not looking
for a single partner.
Anderson said this
distinction between men and women seeking affairs may be in part due to the
“stud/slut dichotomy” that is so prominent in our society, which can reward men
for having multiple sex partners but stigmatizes women. “One way of telling
themselves that they are not ‘sluts’ is to say that they are desiring monogamy
with their infidelity, and that monogamy must have passion,” according to
Anderson, who said another reason why women might seek monogamy within their
infidelity is that some women need to be emotionally connected to a lover in
order to have fulfilling sex.
Citing high rates of
cheating, divorce, and premarital sex, Anderson said, “It is very clear that
our model of having sex and love with just one other person for life has failed
— and it has failed massively. Hopefully, this study will help unravel the
stranglehold that our culture has on sex and love — showing that just because
one cheats, it does not mean that one has failed to love his or her partner.”
Study Reveals Sex Differences
in Experiencing Orgasms
Among single adults in the
U.S., women, regardless of sexual orientation, have less predictable, more
varied orgasm experiences than do men, new research indicates. The study
revealed that men experience orgasm during sexual activity with a familiar
partner 85% of the time on average, compared with 63% of the time for women.
The Journal of Sexual Medicine study also
found that for women, but not men, the likelihood of orgasm varies with sexual
orientation, with lesbian women having a significantly higher probability of
orgasm than either heterosexual or bisexual women (75%, 62%, and 58%,
respectively).
Study identifies 'bonus effect' for certain multiracial daters
While previous research has
documented the existence of a racial hierarchy within the dating world with
white women and men on top, a new study finds that in certain circumstances
multiracial daters are actually seen as more desirable than individuals from
all other racial groups, including whites.
"The most interesting and surprising
finding from our study is that some white-minority multiracial daters are, in
fact, preferred over white and non-white daters," said Celeste Vaughan
Curington, a doctoral student in sociology at the University of
Massachusetts-Amherst and lead author of the study, which she will present at
the 109th Annual Meeting of the American Sociological Association. "We
call this the multiracial 'bonus effect,' and this is truly unheard of in the
existing sociological literature."
The researchers found that three multiracial
groups were on the receiving end of the "bonus effect." Asian-white
women were viewed more favorably than all other groups by white and Asian men,
while Asian-white and Hispanic-white men were also afforded "bonus"
status by Asian and Hispanic women respectively.
"Although it may be tempting to try to
fit multiracial people into a single position in the existing racial hierarchy
of desirability, the 'bonus effect' demonstrates that this is probably not
possible," Curington said.
The study relies on 2003-2010 data from one
of the largest dating websites in the United States, and focuses on initial
messages sent between heterosexual women and men among the following seven
groups: Asian, black, Hispanic, white, Asian-white, black-white, and
Hispanic-white. Curington and her co-authors Ken-Hou Lin, an assistant
professor of sociology at the University of Texas at Austin, and Jennifer
Hickes Lundquist, an associate professor of sociology at the University of
Massachusetts-Amherst, analyzed nearly 6.7 million initial messages.
"While scholarly conversation on
multiraciality in America has long been dominated by the concept of the 'one
drop rule,' meaning that white-minority multiracial people are viewed the same
as minorities, our study finds no support for this theory," Curington
said.
Rather, overall, the researchers found that
white-minority multiracial daters (e.g., black-white daters) are viewed more
favorably than their monoracial minority counterparts (e.g., black daters).
"We find that 'honorary whiteness,' in the form of what we call 'white
equivalence' and 'multiracial inbetweenness,' seems to be the most frequent way
that both white men and women and some minority groups generally categorize
white-minority multiracial people," Curington said.
"A preference for multiraciality is
closely akin to a preference for lightness or whiteness," Curington
explained. "Daters may be influenced by the popular media's representation
of mixed-race people as 'exotic' and sexually appealing."
In terms of the study's implications,
Curington said, "The findings provide us with a better understanding of
the social meaning of multiraciality in the post-civil rights era United
States, and of how demographic changes in racial identification operate at the
level of everyday interactions."
Virginity pledges for men can lead to sexual confusion -- even
after the wedding day
Bragging of sexual conquests, suggestive
jokes and innuendo, and sexual one-upmanship can all be a part of demonstrating
one's manhood, especially for young men eager to exert their masculinity.
But how does masculinity manifest itself
among young men who have pledged sexual abstinence before marriage? How do they
handle sexual temptation, and what sorts of challenges crop up once they're
married?
"Sexual purity and pledging abstinence
are most commonly thought of as feminine, something girls and young women
promise before marriage," said Sarah Diefendorf, a sociology graduate
student at the University of Washington. "But I wanted to look at this
from the men's point of view."
Studying a group of 15 young evangelical
Christian men, Diefendorf learned that support groups and open discussions
about sex with trusted companions were key in helping the men during their
pre-marital years. But once married, they faced trouble. Instructed by the
church to keep problems "in the dark" after marriage, the men
reported feeling like they couldn't discuss sex with their friends and didn't
know how to comfortably broach the subject with their wives. The newly wedded
men also expressed surprise that sexual temptations continued to taunt them.
Diefendorf will present her findings Aug. 17
2014 at the annual meeting of the American Sociological Association in San
Francisco.
At the start of her study, in 2008, the men
were in their late teens and early 20s and part of a support group for young
men who had pledged to remain virgins until marriage. The group was affiliated
with a nondenominational evangelical megachurch in the southwest United States
that had about 14,000 attendees at Sunday services.
Over the course of a year, Diefendorf
attended their meetings, and conducted one-on-one interviews and focus-group
meetings with the men.
The men talked about sex as both
"sacred" – a gift from God meant for the marriage bed – and
"beastly" if it occurs outside of marriage.
"To maintain this gift from God, they
believe that they must control sex before marriage," Diefendorf said. The
support group is one way for the young men to explore their sexual urges, she
said. Many of them opened up to struggles with pornography and masturbation,
which some considered as "destructive" and a threat to their
commitment to abstinence.
"People think that evangelical support
groups are just about suppressing men's natural urges, but really they are
caring, supportive and safe space that allow men to have a remarkably open and
frank discussion about sexual desire," Diefendorf said.
Besides the support group, the men sought
out accountability partners to help control their behavior. One of them, for
instance, had an accountability partner who would text-message him each night,
"Are you behaving?" Some of them used software to track which
websites they visited, and shared the results with the partner.
A few years later, in 2011 and 2012,
Diefendorf followed up with the men. Fourteen of them were married and she
wanted to find out how the men's views of sex and masculinity had changed since
marriage.
During a focus-group meeting in one of their
homes, it soon became clear that as taboo as sexual activity was before
marriage, it was now taboo to talk about sex as it was seen as disrespecting
their wives.
"After marriage, the church culture
assumes that couples become each other's support, regardless of the issue at
hand," Diefendorf said. "There's little support in figuring out
sexuality in married life, and these men don't know how to talk to their wives
about it."
As one of the men put it: "For me to
come home from work and say, 'hey, did you like it last time?' I mean that
would be – that would be such a weird question for me to ask."
The newlyweds also revealed they continue to
think of sex in terms of control, and how the so-called beastly elements of sex
– temptations by pornography and extramarital affairs – do not disappear with
the transition to married life.
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